Walking Away from Jesus
That a son or daughter has walked away from their faith is a realization that no believing parent or family wants to admit. Immediately so many questions bubble up- why? What happened? What brought on this change of mind, of heart?! Why, Lord? Why our family? What did I do wrong?
Sadly, it’s not rare. There are many young people who walk away from their faith while others run hard or slam the door shut on any conversation that might include God. Hurt, resentment, bitterness, disillusion all play a part in leaving faith.
Most often it’s a gradual process, happening over time and subtly. That’s how Satan works. He’s slick, subtle, and sneaky. He works his way in, stirring questions, whispering doubts, casting dispersions and cultivating discontent. He speaks lies that are easily believed. He plays on our emotions. He attacks the mind in an invisible battle that often does much damage before the evidence is obvious to others. Satan is a master deceiver and his work is evident in the lives of so many sons and daughters who grew up singing “Jesus loves me” but now want nothing to do with Him. But this isn’t quitting religion as the world would have you believe, it’s abandoning a relationship between Jesus and the one for whom He died.
Often, by the time someone is walking away from their faith, the battle in their mind and heart has been rumbling or raging for a while. By the time it’s evident, serious damage has been done. Conversation does little, but prayer is powerful.
Our sons and daughters must make their own confession of faith in Jesus Christ. Faith isn’t inherited. Yes, we can leave a legacy of faith, but no one enters the kingdom of God because of another’s faith. “because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Romans 10:9, ESV Pray that they would be convicted to embrace Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.
Drifting is easy. It requires no effort. And when one is drifting away from the Lord, it’s a gradual, passive change that often carries the individual far away from the Rock of salvation before the drift is even recognized. Pray that the Lord would place firm barriers in the way of their drift. Pray that He would anchor them in Scripture, would provide solid teaching, and would stir concern and attentiveness to their situation. "so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3”17-19
Leaving the faith is often motivated by misperceptions and selfish motivations that set oneself up as more important..essentially idolatry of self. Pray that the Lord would call them out on their idolatry, bring conviction and change. 2 Timothy 3:1-5 warns us, “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.” Pray that our sons and daughters truly would have nothing to do with such people.
Environmental factors play a role. Where and with whom are they spending time? How are these places and people impacting their choices, their values, their trajectory? Pray that the Lord would bring strong, solid believers into their life…ones for whom they would have respect and appreciation, ones to whom they would listen and take to heart what is said. 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.””
Many times a finger will be pointed at someone who said something or did something that turned the individual away from the Lord, from fellowship with believers, and from trusting the Lord. Here’s the thing, people are poor representatives of Christ and too often, Jesus is judged because of the words and actions of others. Are we trusting in others or are we trusting in God? Job 13:15, “Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him;”
What do they love? What are they pursuing? What is it that holds priority and purpose in their lives? These questions will reveal where their heart is focused. Matthew 6:21, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
As parents, WE cannot change their heart- only God can do that. But we can pray that He would intervene, wake them up and do what it takes to turn them back to Jesus. That’s a hard prayer. We don’t like praying “Lord, do whatever it takes” because there is fear of what that might be. But friends, there should be a greater fear of what happens if they do not turn back to the Lord.
God may send a storm…and we may not like it. But Charles Spurgeon said something so profound, "I have learned to kiss the wave that throws me against the Rock of Ages." If the storm God brings is the catalyst that turns the heart of our son or daughter back to the foot of the cross, then it is so worth it. Would we rather protect them from pain and hardship here or allow God to do what He would to bring them back into fellowship with Him?
If our sons and daughters are not willing to suffer for the Lord, they’ve bought into the lie that Satan weaves that tells us God wants our comfort, our success, and our happiness to overflow in this life. That’s a prosperity gospel deception and is unbiblical.
““...In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”” John 16:33b
Yes, hardship, pain, and sorrow are part of walking with Jesus- He was a man of sorrow, acquainted with grief (Isa 53:3) but it is also filled with joy, hope, and assurance that our eternity is secure. “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God.” Romans 5:1-2. But if we cling to Jesus, we WILL overcome the hardship, pain, and grief of this world.
“For everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith.” 1 John 5:4
Let’s pray that our sons and daughters cling tightly to Jesus, no matter what. Pray that the Holy Spirit would reveal and protect from deception. Pray that those who are drifting would wake up and turn back to Jesus. Pray that God would do what He must to bring them back into the fellowship of the cross.
“Oh, heavenly Father, one thing I fear is that my son or daughter would drift away from You. I struggle to think they may walk away, not loving You for all You are and all You do. How could it be? Yet I know that a heart that longs for You is a work of the Holy Spirit, not the effort of my longing or result of my parenting. You’ve told me not to fear- fear is a tool of the enemy. So I will pray to the One Who holds the future, Who directs my steps and knows my thoughts and sees my heart. I will pray to the One who created my beloved (son or daughter). You know them, You love them, and You desire right fellowship with them and worship from them.”
“Lord, You tell us in Psalm 139:1-6 that You have searched (name), LORD, and you know them. You know when name sits and when they rise; you perceive their thoughts from afar (even those thoughts that pull them away from You, Lord.) You discern their going out and their lying down; You are familiar with all their ways. (Lord, you see who they fellowship with, who speaks into them, and You see what motivates them- change this so they are motivated to seek You.) Before a word is on (name)’s tongue you, LORD, know it completely. (Guard their words. Consume their thoughts. Don’t let them stray, Lord.) You hem (name) in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon (name). (I pray in this that the Holy Spirit would be powerful and convicting- don’t let (name) ignore Your prompting and Your conviction.) I pray, too, that such knowledge would be too wonderful for (name), giving them no other choice but to bow to Your Lordship and surrender their heart and life to You. Lord, You are able to do more than our minds can imagine. You are always on time, never late and never ill-prepared. I pray that in Your time and perfect way, You would work on (name) to bring them back to the cross, back to full surrender and back to walking in step with You with a passion and conviction that would make the enemy flee. I pray this all in Jesus’ name, amen.”
Pray without ceasing.
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