Brenda Reid 4/30/26 Brenda Reid 4/30/26

Identity Crisis…Who are You?

What is your identity? What defines you? It’s a question that many of us ponder and one that young people today wrestle with in so many ways.

When someone asks, “Who are you?” It's a question of identity, value, purpose, and belonging. We should not typically answer that with “I’m a teacher” or “I’m an engineer” because those answers tell what we do, but not who we are. But far too often, we may find ourselves identifying ourselves by what we do and finding our identity and value in that. It’s an easy trap and one the enemy likes to weave for us. We begin to align our value by our productivity and by how useful we are to others. Yet, that’s not how God values us.

“You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly.Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:6-8

What this world teaches us about our value is so warped and our sons and daughters (and we) too often fall into the trap of defining ourselves and our value by what we do and produce. But God doesn’t love us because of what we can do for Him. He didn’t choose us because we had something of value He could use. He didn’t redeem us because we showed promise or would be a great addition to the “team”. None of us was the strongest player, most engaging speaker, most diligent student or highest producer. We were wretched, ungodly, lost sinners. And while we were still sinners, filthy in our faults, our failures, our poverty of character, He chose us, died for us, and set us apart for His own.

Our value is not in what we do, it is in who we are and Whose we are.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself.” 2 Corinthians 5:17-18a

It’s easy to get caught up in our jobs, our ministry, our hobbies, and begin to make that our identity, especially if we’re good at it and hear words of affirmation telling us so. We begin to align our worth with our production, our position, our vocation or career goals and accomplishments. But God is not interested in a performative relationship where we excel and He loves us for it. No, He loves us because we are made in His image. We did nothing to earn this love. Yet we benefit from it in so many ways.

1 John 4:10, “This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”

A job loss, a market shift, a debilitating illness or accident can happen suddenly and those things which we believed gave us value suddenly disappear and if we’re not careful, our estimation of our value shifts or diminishes.

What we thought gave us value and purpose is no longer present and we risk spiraling into defeat, lack of purpose, and feeling worthless. God never intended us to find our value and purpose in what we do, but to find our value and purpose in Him and express that through what we do, demonstrating to others the joy of the Lord and the purpose and value He gives us when we walk faithfully with Him.

“We serve God whether people honor us or despise us, whether they slander us or praise us.” 2 Corinthians 6:8a (NLT)

When we find our identity in Christ we have a secure (Psalm 16:5), unchangeable (Hebrews 13:8), and perfect identity as His child (1 John 5:1), His beloved (Colossians 3:12), the one in whom He delights and rejoices over with singing (Zephaniah 3:17). THAT is a powerful identity!

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33

When we seek His kingdom first, we are setting our priorities according to God’s will and focusing on things of eternal value, not things that are temporary, flawed, and unpredictable. We begin to understand who we are and what our purpose is. This world WILL pass away, yet we are created to be eternal and our home is with Him in His kingdom.

“This, then, is how you should pray: “ ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” Matthew 6:9-10

Today, let’s pray for our sons and daughters, first that they would seek God’s kingdom before anything else. Next, pray that they would understand their identity in light of Jesus' love, sacrifice, and purpose for them. Pray they would have an eternal mindset and not get distracted by status, wealth, and things of this world. Ask God to bind the enemy and keep him from interfering or distracting them from understanding who they are in Christ and the purpose He has for them.

“Our Father in Heaven, Your name is holy. I pray that Your kingdom would come so that both earth and heaven would be set at one again under Your authority and reign- a shalom of Your creation as you intended. Lord, I pray that (name) would desire that most of all- to see You reign and every knee bow and tongue confess that Jesus is Lord. If that is not our heart’s desire, change our hearts. I pray that (name) would always seek Your kingdom first. Help them to know and understand they are Your child, You love them and have a purpose for them. This world is not their home, nor is it where they should find their purpose and value. But, Father, when that is what we’re surrounded by and all that we know, it’s difficult to not fall into the habits and traps of valuing ourselves and finding our identity in what this world says is important and purposeful. Father, I pray that You would interrupt (name)’s thoughts today. Shift their heart desires to You. Turn their eyes away from worthless things. Give them a deep understanding of their value and purpose in Christ. Define their identity according to Your will and Your Word. Remind them that this world is temporary and give them a longing to be in Your presence and to worship and serve You alone. Lord, work in all of our hearts and make us more like Christ, in Jesus’ name I pray, amen.”

Pray without ceasing.

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Brenda Reid 10/4/25 Brenda Reid 10/4/25

The Power of Forgiveness: breaking the chains that hold us hostage

“But I don’t want to!”

I’ll admit, that was my own response to the Lord when someone offended me. I wasn’t ready to forgive. I had all kinds of reasons to delay forgiveness. I wanted to hold onto the offense, coddle it, and hold it close because I was justified to do so (and others would agree, of course!) There was security and power in holding a grudge. That person wronged me, hurt me, did or said things that were not right. If I forgave them, I would be letting them ‘off the hook’ and that would be wrong…right?

We struggle to do what Jesus asks us because we think that if we forgive, we’re exonerating that person from their offense and we’re removing their accountability for what they’ve done. “Lord, if I forgive them, then they’re getting away with it!” Satan deceives us into that mindset, friends along with the delusion that we have that kind of power. Ultimately, God holds that ‘other’ accountable- He sees and knows. They will stand before Him and answer for what they’ve done. No one gets away with sin. No one. Sometimes the law or the church can successfully bring justice or resolution, but be assured, the offense will not be forgotten, nor will it be dismissed in the eyes of God.

But when it comes to our sons and daughters, our protective parental nature steps up to shield our kids and make sure they’re okay. We will fight for them when they cannot stand for themselves. And we’re even more cautious and hesitant to offer forgiveness because we’re protecting our family and we want justice and to see payment for the offense.

“Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Matthew 18:21

When Peter asked Jesus, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” (Matthew 18:21). I’m sure Peter thought he was being generous and righteous, taking the higher road, to forgive someone seven times was going above and beyond, right?

But Jesus' response turned that around. “Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” (Matthew 18:22)

Why would Jesus say that?

You see, forgiveness is not just for the ‘other’ person. Forgiveness is for us who are offended and who struggle with the injustice of it. Forgiving once isn’t enough because those feelings of injustice, hurt, pain, anger, bitterness and more come flooding back into our hearts in ever increasing waves and begin to put distance between us and God. Oh, we justify it by saying we’re holding that other person accountable. But really, we’re poisoning our own hearts in our quest to justify our hurt and bring accountability to the other. Holding that other person accountable becomes our full time obsession and consumes our thinking, our being and steals our joy.

Studies show that harboring unforgiveness has a physical impact on our bodies.

“Chronic anger puts you into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure and immune response. Those changes, then, increase the risk of depression, heart disease and diabetes, among other conditions. Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health.” (1)

Unforgiveness can damage us for life and lead to a premature death. It can be all consuming and ruinous. Why would we allow something to have that much power over us?

The act of forgiveness releases that pain, hurt, and poison. But it’s never a ‘one and done’ act. We need to forgive as many times as it takes for our head and heart to recognize and believe that we can trust GOD to hold that other person accountable and to be confident He will bring justice- it’s not for us to ensure. Oh, if laws were broken and restitution is needed, of course it’s important to engage the legal system. But friends, it’s even more important to engage our hearts with the Lord and surrender to His Lordship. Why would we let someone else’s offense damage our relationship with God? Then their offense becomes doubly-damaging.

It is not our responsibility to be the prosecuting attorney in the courtroom of the Lord. That’s just not our job. Essentially, when we do that, we are putting ourselves in God’s place and friends, that’s idolatry. When we refuse to forgive, we are telling God we don’t trust Him to bring justice and resolution. We question His authority, His power, and His lordship in our lives when we cling to unforgiveness. When we hold onto an offense, it becomes the ‘third wheel’ in the relationship and soon, it becomes the focus and God takes a back seat.

Instead, every time we feel that anger, bitterness, and pain bubble up, we need to say “I forgive them.” Say it out loud, say it in your heart, say it to the Lord, and pray that He would help you feel that forgiveness. We need to continue saying it until we truly feel the forgiveness that releases us from the bondage of bitterness that would damage our communion with the Lord. We need to say it until we are no longer consumed by it.

Jesus told Peter to forgive seventy times seven because He knew how an offense and the resulting bitterness linger and unless we’re willing to give it to the Lord and allow Him to be our avenger, we will become hardened, bitter, and a victim of that offense all over again, and again, and again.

“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” Mark 11:25

Jesus also told Peter, “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” (Mark 11:25). Think about that! Do we want Jesus to forgive us? If so, then we need to forgive others.

Do you ever feel like your prayers are hitting the ceiling but not reaching the Lord? Could it be you need to do some forgiving?

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37

Now here’s an important parenting moment….of course our sons and daughters have encountered hurt and offense…how do we advise them? And do we carry a grudge on their behalf?

Oh, friends, when someone wrongs our kids, the “Momma bear” can come out and take over, right? But if we want to be an example of Christ to our sons and daughters, we need to model Jesus to them. Jesus forgave those who crucified Him. Think about that. Jesus forgave those who put Him to death. He knew that He held the ultimate power and that one day those same people would stand before Him…His love for them and His desire to see them know and follow Him as Lord and Savior eclipsed everything else. Would Jesus deny them salvation? No! That was the very reason He was willing to die. And friends, that same Savior who holds ultimate power is the One who lives in us. That same power that raised Him from the dead is the same power that works in us (Ephesians 1:18-20). The same Lord who conquered sin and death is the Lord who is in control of every aspect of our life. Why would we set that aside for the sake of holding onto the sinful attitude of unforgiveness?

Do we have a heart for others that, more than earthly justice and payback to others, wants to see lost people saved? Do we want to see lives changed and surrendered to the Lord or are we clinging to our need for personal justice and accountability at the cost of eternity?

True freedom comes by praying for those who have hurt you. Pray for their heart- that they would find forgiveness and purpose with life in Christ. And pray that Jesus would heal your heart and help you forgive. There is so much freedom in forgiveness. There is joy, there is purpose, and there is a pathway to serving the Lord free from the chains of bitterness and unforgiveness. Satan uses unforgiveness to hold us hostage, but freedom is found in Christ and in the forgiveness He empowers us to embrace.

“Forgive. Seventy times seven and keep forgiving until God grants you the freedom from the bondage of unforgiveness.”

The best thing we can do is to pray.

“Oh, Lord, it’s so hard to surrender control over the situations and people who have hurt me. I know I don’t have the ability to bring justice, to make them pay for their offenses, and to restore what was lost. Yet I’m afraid to let go and forgive because it seems counter-productive and in my mind and heart. In my human mind, forgiveness releases them from being accountable. But Lord, I know You see it and You will take it in hand. Psalm 10:14 reminds me, “But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to you; you are the helper of the fatherless.” I am not Fatherless, Lord, because I have You. I pray that You would see my trouble. See the trouble of (name), my (son/daughter). I ask that You would bring healing and freedom from the pain of the wrong done and from the bitterness and anger that fester. Give us courage and strength to forgive, not just for the other person, but to maintain our relationship with You. Please help us to not allow this to stand in the way of our fellowship with You. So right now, I choose to forgive (name) for what they did and the pain they caused. I forgive them Lord and pray that You would work in their life, bring confession, repentance, and redemption so that (name) would come to know You as Lord and Savior. Help (name) to recognize that hurting others only tightens the chains of bondage that Satan holds over them and to understand that there is boundless spiritual freedom in following Jesus as Lord and. Bring healing and freedom to all of us, Lord. I pray this in Jesus’ name, amen.”

Pray without ceasing.

Forgiveness: Your health depends on it. Johns Hopkins Medicine. (2024, June 20). https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/forgiveness-your-health-depends-on-it

Are you praying for a prodigal? Don’t lose heart. God sees and He hears. Keep laying your burdens in prayer at the feet of Jesus. Trust Him, He is working. You may not see it, but He works in dimensions that are beyond our comprehension. Pray for those friends and associates that interact with your beloved prodigal, that God would use them to bring them to full surrender to Jesus as Lord.

40 Days of Prayer for the Prodigal is a powerful book for anyone deeply in prayer for the heart of their loved one. The book addresses the battle for the heart, mind, and soul of the prodigal through praying Scripture boldly and consistently with faith that God will bring repentance and restoration. Pray the words of Scripture in powerful and effective ways to plead with God about the condition and situation of your beloved prodigal and watch God work!

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Brenda Reid 9/23/25 Brenda Reid 9/23/25

Don’t Ever Stop Praying

Are you feeling weary? Does it seem like you keep praying, day in and day out, asking for change in your son or daughter’s heart, yet, each day goes by all the same? Don’t give up! God is working and it may be there is a wrestling going on in the heart of your son or daughter that you cannot see. Pray that the Holy Spirit would continue to bring conviction and surrender. Pray they would grow weary of the wrestling and surrender to God.

Remember trying to change your toddler’s diaper? At times it was like wrestling an alligator. The rolling and twisting was top rate. It was a battle of strength and agility, parental will pitted against toddler will with grunts, cries, and frustration on all sides. Anyone watching got to see a full-on wrestling match, all in an effort to just change a diaper. The toddler wanted their freedom, they had things to do, messes to make, and naps to avoid. But the parent, the parent just wanted to clean them up and get them out of the mess they were sitting in. They wanted the best for their little one.

God wants the best for us, too. He is willing to step into the wrestling to get us out of the filth we’re sitting in. Maybe that’s just what’s going on in the heart of your son or daughter, a wrestling between their will and God’s. They wrestle and resist, wanting their own way, telling Him He’s unkind, unreasonable, and too demanding of them. He’s restricting their movement, harshing their fun. They don’t see their mess…or if they do, they’re satisfied with it and just want to be left alone. But, yet, they’re wrestling…and that means they’re engaging with God on some level. Don’t stop praying!

Oh, how we want our sons and daughters to be surrendered to God so that He can do His work in their lives, don’t we? Yet, they wrestle. They resist. And if we’re honest, we do the same. We don’t want to be told what to do and heaven forbid God points out sin that needs to be addressed. No one wants to hear that. Yet, we have a loving Father who just wants to clean us up from the mess we’re sitting in. He wants to give us a healthy spiritual life that is reflected in a godly testimony to others. He wants us to live like Jesus.

“We know that we have come to know him if we keep his commands. Whoever says, “I know him,” but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the truth is not in that person. But if anyone obeys his word, love for God is truly made complete in them. This is how we know we are in him: Whoever claims to live in him must live as Jesus did.” 1 John 2:3-6

Jesus didn’t wrestle with the Father, He submitted to Him. Even when the Father asked our Lord to surrender His life to pay for our sins, Jesus did it willingly. So when we wrestle with God, we’re not living as Jesus did. We’re fighting God, kicking against His will and defying the Holy Spirit.

Keep on praying. God is working and though we may only see the battle, He sees the heart. He hears our cries..and theirs. He is responding and working in ways we can’t fully understand. He will not let them go, He’ll see it through because they need to be changed. God refuses to let them sit in their filth forever.

Let’s pray Scripture over them today:

Luke 5:12 “While he was in one of the cities, there came a man full of leprosy. And when he saw Jesus, he fell on his face and begged him, “Lord, if you will, you can make me clean.” Lord, I know you can make [name] clean. I pray You would give them the desire to be cleansed and healed from sin. Draw them to Your side, urge them to ask You for healing and deliverance. Help them to stop wrestling and look to You for rescue, redemption, and restoration. I pray that [name] would pray Psalm 51:10, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”

“Restore to [name] the joy of Your salvation and renew a right spirit in [name].” Ps 51:12 May Psalm 51:17 be the prayer of their heart, “My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.”

Oh what joy that would bring to my heart, and I know it would fill You with joy as well, Lord, to see [name] surrender to You and be in a right relationship with You.

Lord, conquer the wrestling spirit in [name] and give them the peace and joy that only comes from You. I pray, Father, that they would see You have their best in mind, You want to bless them with joy, hope, and peace. Clean them up, Lord. Give them a heart like Jesus. In His name I pray, amen.”

Pray without ceasing.

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