Battling Destructive Thoughts and Words
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18
Imagine an old brick house covered in ivy. It looks beautiful and mysterious. The ivy creeps over the walls and the house takes on a different personality as the ivy spreads. But the ivy plant has root tendrils on the vines that penetrate into the surface of whatever it climbs on. Those roots attach the vine to the brick and mortar and begin to draw out the moisture. The vines spread and the leaves cover the walls and windows, blocking out the light. The vines will work their way under siding, in through windows and eventually, the ivy will damage the brick and destroy the mortar, compromising the integrity of the structure. Though it looks ‘pretty’ it becomes a silent enemy that will eventually destroy a house.
The power of words
Words can be similar to that ivy. They may seem innocent at first, just a surface thing that doesn’t do harm. But they can penetrate and cause damage, blocking out the light of Truth and drawing away the Living Water. Words can become dark thoughts that linger and penetrate into the heart and mind and cause destruction.
Our sons and daughters struggle with the battle against destructive words, even if they won’t admit it, because we know we do too…even if we won’t admit it. If asked to remember the kindest thing someone ever said to us, we might take a few moments to recall. But if asked to share the hardest or most hurtful thing, we can almost immediately call it to mind. Harsh words stick like glue.
This world is hard and the messaging that is being thrown at our sons and daughters is brutal. Standards they should attain to, but that are nearly impossible to meet; negative messaging that tears down their self-worth; comparisons that daily steal their joy - it all accumulates and festers. It creates a narrative that becomes their daily soundtrack. Sometimes we recognize the struggle in our children, other times they hide it well, but we know the negative words and messages are bombarding them and making an impact.
As believing parents, we have a responsibility to keep speaking truth into their lives, not just when they need it, but all the time. Will we wait and just ‘admire the proverbial ivy’ while it slowly and steadily destroys them, or will we begin to speak truth in ways that could transform their hearts and minds? Will we begin to tear down the destructive “ivy” of negative words and dark thoughts that would penetrate and destroy? We need to ensure that the messages they are hearing are Godly and right and will impact them for good. We cannot risk them struggling with dark thoughts that become deeply rooted and cause cracks in their spiritual foundation.
We can and should speak truth in love and point them to the power of the cross and the resurrection, not just when we see them struggling, but at every opportunity. There is power in the name of Jesus and the gospel is for everyone, everyday, not just on the day of salvation.
The best way to preserve a house from the damage of creeping ivy is to remove it- all of it. It’s not welcome. It’s destructive. And so it is with the words we choose to listen to, the values we choose to embrace, the practices we choose to engage in. If they are not Godly and we allow them to cling to us and take root, they will begin to change our stability and alter our spiritual integrity and obscure the light of God from our life.
So how do we best combat dark, destructive thoughts?
Scripture says “Take every thought captive” that comes from 2 Corinthians 10:5 “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
Demolish arguments.
What is it that you are listening to? What is trying to define you? What arguments are speaking into your worth and value? Evaluate their truth and pull down those lies from the pit that are trying to root themselves into your heart and mind. Don’t allow them to take hold and do damage.
The arguments are what the Greek calls “logismos” and it means a speculation or imagination (1). Do you see? There is little basis in truth, if any. It’s a guess, it’s an idea, it’s nothing that would hold up in court because there is little to no evidence to support it. Demolish it.
2. Demolish pretensions.
Pretentions are those ‘lofty thoughts’. The Greek word is ‘hypsoma’ and it means an elevated place or thing, or a barrier (2). What are the imagined barriers or those obstacles that situations or people put up in front of us? What are those things that exalt themselves over the truth of Scripture? Are they godly? Are they worthy? Are they deserving of our time, energy, and emotions? If not, knock them down. Detour around them. Break through them. Don’t invest in them because when you do, you’re redirecting your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual resources to something that is not of Godly.
3. Demolish every thing that sets itself up against the knowledge of God.
John 1:1-5 “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”
Evaluate the thoughts and feelings against the truth of John 1:1-5. Where do they originate? Do they honor and exalt God? Are they thoughts and feelings God would give you? Do they speak life and light or are they representing darkness, confusion, and oppression? Rebuke any thoughts that do not represent Christ - they are of the enemy and should not have a place in your life. Do not give the enemy a foothold. Tear them down and focus on what is good, just, pure, and lovely (Phil 4:8). If something is set against God, it is not promoting or sustaining the fruit of the Spirit- love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control (Gal. 5:22-23). The fruit of the Spirit is a great standard by which to gauge the godliness of thoughts, feelings, words, and actions.
4. Take every thought captive and bring it into obedience.
The Greek word here is aichmalōtizō and it means to conquer, bring under control, or to master (3). We have the ability to ‘pump the brakes’ and stop our wrong thinking. We have the capacity to arrest the wild thoughts, bring an end to the oppressive, accusatory dialogue and to, instead, set our minds on things that glorify the Lord. Is it easy? No. Is it possible? Absolutely!
5. Finally, choose to make our thoughts obedient to that which pleases God.
We must choose to do what the Greek calls hypakoē, which means attentive listening, compliance or submission (4). We must choose to bring our thoughts and feelings into compliance to God’s will, not leave them to the mercy of the arguments and pretensions that set themselves up against God and against His image-bearer.
Colossians 3:1-3 is the confirmation we need.
“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.” Set your hearts. Make the choice. Be intentional.
The enemy wants us to live in the darkness of death. He deceives us into thinking that we are condemned and we have no hope. He lures us into lingering in the shadows- but our Savior walks through the shadows with us and it’s because of His light we can see the dangers and be confident of His protection! He prepares a table before us in the presence of our enemies, Psalm 23. We can rejoice and celebrate because Christ has won! We are redeemed! The enemy holds no power over us unless we allow it, and why would we?
Demolish it. Take it captive. Bring every thought into obedience.
These are the steps to overcome negative, dark, depressive thinking. These are the steps to a victorious mindset. We must choose where we will allow our thoughts to reside. We must choose what we will speak into the lives of others. It is important and urgent that we choose wisely and encourage our sons and daughters with the same.
Commit to pray
“Father, God, You see the struggles I have with my own thoughts and feelings. I know You see (name), too. You understand their struggles, their fears, their doubts and self-doubt. You see the enemy trying to leech living water and spiritual nutrition from them as he entwines his dark thoughts and casts his shadow of worthlessness and doubt. I rebuke this in Jesus name! I pray that You would help (name) to take every thought captive. As soon as those negative, questioning, dark thoughts begin to linger, I pray that they would capture them, rebuke them, and shift their thinking to what is right and true. Speak into them, Lord, their worth as a child of God, chosen and dearly loved. Strengthen them through Your Holy Spirit to demolish the arguments that would set themselves up against Your Word, Your Character, Your Truth. I pray that they would daily, moment by moment, bring every thought into obedience to You and Your will so they can live in victory. I pray that You would bring to mind Scripture that would encourage them. Help them to evaluate what they hear and choose to believe against Philippians 4:8 “...whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart].” (AMP) Lord, You are able to transform their mind and I pray You would do that, even today. Let the words of their mouth and the meditation of their heart be pleasing to You, Psalm 19:14. I pray this in Jesus name, amen.”
Pray without ceasing
If you don’t have a personal relationship with Jesus and you would like to know more, keep reading! Scripture says we’ve all sinned and come short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). Though we live ‘rightly’, do good, give of our time and resources, it’s not enough. Our sin is too great for us to atone for. But Jesus, the Son of God, came in human form to live among us and to be a sacrifice for our sin- for the sin of the world. He lived a sinless life and died on our behalf so that we could be reconciled to God. In our sin, we cannot stand before a righteous and just God- we have no good in us. All of our ‘righteousness’ is just like filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6). But God demonstrated His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8). Jesus became the sacrifice for our sin on our behalf. He paid the price for our sin once, for all. When we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior, God looks on us and sees Jesus. We are made holy and just. We are acceptable to God because of Jesus’ sacrifice. When we choose to follow Jesus, we make Him the focal point of our life, we pattern our life after Him and we live to serve and please Him. He promises everlasting life in His presence and an inheritance unlike any other. “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you are saved.” Romans 10:9 This is not religion, it’s not a set of rules or a checklist of things you must accomplish, it’s a personal relationship with the One True God, the Almighty, Creator of the Universe and lover of our souls. Would you choose to follow Jesus today? Pray this prayer,
“Lord, I know that I’m a sinner. I’ve done many things wrong, thought things that were impure, said things that were hurtful. Lord, I’m undeserving. But I believe Jesus died for my sin. I believe He rose again from the dead, conquering sin and death and that He lives eternally. I confess my sin and ask for Your forgiveness. I want Jesus to be Lord of my life. I ask Jesus, that You would be my Lord and Savior. Forgive me. Cleanse me. Make me new and give me life beyond the grave. Thank you for forgiveness and for the hope of heaven. In Jesus’s name, amen.”
If you prayed this prayer, reach out! I would be so happy to give you some resources and some encouragement! Knowing Jesus truly is life-changing!
G3053 - logismos - Strong's Greek Lexicon (niv). Retrieved from https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g3053/niv/mgnt/0-1/
G5313 - hypsōma - Strong's Greek Lexicon (niv). Retrieved from https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g5313/niv/mgnt/0-1/
G163 - aichmalōtizō - Strong's Greek Lexicon (niv). Retrieved from https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g163/niv/mgnt/0-1/
G5218 - hypakoē - Strong's Greek Lexicon (niv). Retrieved from https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g5218/niv/mgnt/0-1/
Dark Valleys, Divine Protection
“Even though I walk through the darkest valley,” Psalm 23:4a
(location, progression)
Dark valleys. We don’t like them; we wouldn’t choose them, yet, most of us have encountered them at some point in our life. The King James version calls it “the valley of the shadow of death”. It could be the physical death of one we love or maybe it’s the death of a dream, a passion, a project or career, it may even refer to dying to ourselves so we can live for Christ. The valley of the shadow of death means there is a deep loss that is present and abiding.
But look at the wording in Psalm 23:4…the valley of the shadow of death. We only see shadows when there is light present. The fact that there is a shadow in the valley tells us there is Light in the valley with us. The Light of God shows us that death is just a shadow- it is powerless to harm us eternally. Jesus conquered the power of sin and death. “I am the Living One; I was dead, and now look, I am alive for ever and ever! And I hold the keys of death and Hades.” Revelation 1:18. There is nothing Satan can do to separate us from the love of God and from His protection. “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39
So, although death is inevitable for everyone, it’s not our final destination as believers and we need to cling to that truth. Death, for the believer, is a doorway to the eternal life that God intends us to live with Him in perfect shalom relationship.
Yet, the valley is there and it’s likely we’ll walk through it, perhaps many times while on this earth. But take note of that other phrase, “even though I walk through”. Did you see it? We’re not staying. We’re walking through. The darkest valley isn’t where we settle. It’s not where God intends for us to stay. We don’t put down roots there. We travel through with our Shepherd by our side. It’s a temporary location for us, but not where He intends us to dwell.
Oh how we need to be reminded of this! How our sons and daughters need this encouragement to help them to trust and obey, to follow without faltering, especially through the dark valleys. Jesus endured death so we wouldn’t have to- He conquered death so we could live a victorious life! He walks through the dark valley with us so that we will be reminded that His presence is our light and our assurance. Psalm 56:13 “For you have delivered me from death and my feet from stumbling, that I may walk before God in the light of life.”
“But God will redeem me from the realm of the dead; he will surely take me to himself.” Psalm 49:15
Let’s pray today that our sons and daughters have perspective and assurance when they encounter dark valleys.
“Jesus, You are the light of the world. What a comfort and assurance that is in this dark world. It is so easy to be overwhelmed by the evil that surrounds us and feel as if we’re going to be overcome by it. But You told us that, “whoever follows You will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life” (John 8:12). I pray that (name) would cling to that Truth. Help (name) to love light more than darkness and to follow after You with all of their heart, mind, and strength. Keep them walking faithfully alongside You in the right paths You choose- even if they lead into dark valleys. Lord, I know You walk with them, remind them of that. Let (name) see visible affirmations of Your Presence today and assure them that wherever You lead them, You will be Present beside them, walking with them through the hardest of times and places. Remind them, too, that the darkness is not where they live. The dark valley isn’t their home. You will lead us out of the valley, You will reach down and rescue us from the deep waters (Ps. 18:16). Lord Jesus, I pray that whatever (name)’s location is, physically or spiritually, that You would give them the strength to move forward, not turning back or to the side and sustain them to endure whatever You lead them to, assuring them that You will, indeed, lead them through it. “The LORD is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid?” Ps 27:1 I pray Your mighty protection over (name), in Jesus’ name, amen.”
”I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4b
(companion, confidence, protection, support)
I will fear NO evil. None. Not even just a little bit, not some, but NO EVIL. How can we be confident of that? How can we encourage our sons and daughters when we’re surrounded by evil in this world? We see it everywhere and it can be overwhelming.
The first thing to remember is that second part of the verse, “I will fear no evil, for You are with me”. God is ever-present and all powerful. He will never leave us or forsake us - those are the very words He used to encourage Moses and Joshua. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6) Our God is faithful. It is in his nature and character to be so.
Remember, God has not given us a spirit of fear ...so if we are struggling with fear, where is that coming from? Ah, there it is! The enemy! Ephesians 6:12 says “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”
As God shepherds us, He is strong to lead, protect, and save. He’s not just a general who sits in the war room- watching from afar while we fight the battle. He’s not just the captain on the battlefield, seeing only the fight in front of him. And He’s not simply the ‘special forces’ sent in to complete an extraction when things are dire. He is everything we need at all times surrounding us completely and holding us up through it all. He holds fast the spiritual boundaries that keep us safe. He is the strong arm that pulls us out of deep waters and dangerous pits, the sword and shield that hold off the enemy who would try to drag us away. “You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.” Psalm 139:5
We have unrivaled protection and support from our loving God. We will fear no evil! Let’s pray that our sons and daughters do not live in fear, but would have confidence that God is with them always, watching, caring, protecting and saving.
Let’s pray scripture over our sons and daughters today:
“The LORD is (name)’s light and their salvation— whom shall they fear? The LORD is the stronghold of (name)’s life— of whom shall they be afraid? When the wicked advance against them to devour them, it is their enemies and foes who will stumble and fall. Though an army besiege (name), (name)’s heart will not fear; though war break out against (name), even then they will be confident.” Psalm 27:1-3
Abba, Father, Almighty Lord, I pray Your word over (name).
(Name) “Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away.” Psalm 37:1-2
Lord, give (name) strong spiritual confidence in Your protection and watchful care.
“The way of the LORD is a refuge for the blameless, but it is the ruin of those who do evil.” Proverbs 10:29
Keep (name) walking and living blamelessly. Guide them on right paths for Your name’s sake. Keep them faithful to You and protect them from fear and from the enemy.
“Therefore, (name) put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.” Ephesians 6:13
“But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen (name) and protect (name) from the evil one.” 2 Thessalonians 3:3
I pray that (name) would “Fear no evil- sin and death are conquered” Revelation 1:8
Give name strength to stand against the evil one and to live in victory through Jesus, in His name I pray, amen.”
Pray without ceasing, friends.
Focused on the Storm or the Savior?
Most people have heard about the miracle of how Jesus fed the five thousand with just a young boy’s lunch of five loaves and two fish. He gave thanks and then broke it apart…and apart, and He kept going until there was enough to feed over five thousand people…with leftovers collected afterward. If we were witnesses to that, we’d all likely be marveling for days afterward. The disciples were front row witnesses. Yet, despite that and all the other miracles they’d seen, their short term memory seemed fragile when they faced something scary, something out of their control.
That’s where we pick up our passage, Matthew 14:22-32. Watch how the disciples react and respond; take note of the underlined portions.
“Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowd. After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone, and the boat was already a considerable distance from land, buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it.
Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear.
But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.”
“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”
“Come,” he said.
Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”
Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”
And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.””
There are six things we can learn from this passage that can encourage us as we parent and pray.
First:
“and the boat was already a considerable distance from land, buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it.”
How many times do we feel buffeted and beat up by life because it seems everything is against us? Life is hard. Circumstances are painful. Other people are difficult. The wind of life is often working against us and we’re pushed back, pushed down and pushed to our limits….but, friends, Who is the maker of the wind? Our Lord and Savior Jesus…we need to remember that.
Second:
“they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear.”
Remember, the disciples had just been with Jesus a short time before this happened. Yet they panicked. They suffered short term memory issues. They forgot that the Master of the Universe and the Lord of Creation was just a shout away…. We’re more like the disciples than we often care to admit. When we are afraid, we often default to panic and the immediate need to fix or control the situation. Instead, we need to call on the Savior.
Third:
“But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.””
Jesus sees our struggle. He understands our fear. He knows that we are mortal and fragile and we are overwhelmed and intimidated by things that are out of our control.
When our children feared something and cried out, we didn’t wait until they’d suffered an acceptable amount of time. We didn’t allow them to ‘tough it out’ to help them learn. No, we would quickly move to comfort and soothe them, tell them we were there with them and tell them there was no need to be afraid. Look at Jesus’ words above!! Isn’t that just like a Good Father?. God doesn’t wait until we’ve suffered long enough in our fear…He reassures us immediately. He reminds us that He’s there with us and He tells us we have nothing to fear.
Fourth:
“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”
Ah, Peter; don’t you just love impulsive, energetic, passionate Peter?! Take note of Peter’s first words….Lord, if it’s you…..
There was some doubt there and a bit of a challenge too. But Jesus didn’t reprimand him. Jesus didn’t ask Peter what his motives were. He didn’t ask him whether he was qualified. Jesus welcomed him. He knows our hearts. He sees our doubt and skepticism. He understands our fear and our mistrust. He sees that we want to believe, but our humanness gets in the way. Jesus welcomes us anyway. Step out and bring Him your doubt and fear. Go on.
Fifth:
But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”
Peter took a few steps, then realized where he was and what He was doing….and he began to sink. Yet, instead of wringing his hands and wondering what on earth he should do, he cried out to Jesus.
He got it right. He didn’t try to solve it on his own. He didn’t tell the Lord to wait until he figured it out. He didn’t push away the hand that was there to save him, insistent he could do it himself. He cried out, “Lord save me!”
Here’s the thing, every time the disciples took their eyes off of Jesus and focused on the situation and circumstances surrounding them, they became doubtful and fearful. Peter saw the wind. He felt the waves. He looked down at the water instead of into the eyes of Jesus. He succumbed to the situation rather than surrendering to the Savior.
When circumstances start to pull us under, all we need to do is cry out to Jesus “Lord, save me!”
and then…
Sixth:
Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”
Jesus IMMEDIATELY reached out to save Peter. He reached out and caught him. He saved him. He rescued him, not because he deserved it or earned it, but because Jesus loved him.
When we’re praying for our loved ones, whether our sons and daughters, family members or those for whom we’re burdened, we can become overwhelmed with the circumstances and lose sight of the Savior. And when we do that, we begin to doubt Him, we question His goodness, we become impatient with His timing. We are uncertain of how He will answer and we start to lack confidence in His grace and mercy. We may even lose trust…but why? Because we’re looking at the circumstances and not the Savior.
Just to recap
The storm may be against us, but we serve the Lord of the wind and the waves
We can’t allow our fear to take the throne and control our responses. Let’s remind ourselves of the Lords power and faithfulness. He is able to calm the storm!
Jesus will always remind us that He’s with us, we have nothing to fear if we are trusting in Him.
Jesus sees our doubts. He loves us anyway and He’ll always welcome us to come to Him.
When we’re sinking, all we need to do is cry out for Jesus to save us. We don’t need to fix it ourselves.
Jesus responds to our cries! Always!
Do you feel like you’re drowning in a sea of circumstances? Call out to the Lord. Is your son or daughter in the midst of a storm? Call out to the Lord. Did you get a phone call, a text or a message that shook you? Call out to the Lord. He has a 100% response rate and His strength is unmatched. Trust Him. Let’s not lose sight of the Savior, friends.
“Father, You know this storm (go on, explain it to the Lord) But I know You are Lord of the wind and the waves. Help me to focus on You and not on the situation. Help me not to fear what might be, but be confident in what I know is True. You are the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Right now I want to pray for (name). You know their needs and their struggles. You see them in the midst of the storm and the wind that is carrying them away from You, from Your safety and refuge. I pray that You would go to (name), Lord. Meet them where they are. Make Yourself evident to (name) today. I pray that in the midst of their turmoil, fear and doubt that Your voice would be loud and clear “It is I, don’t be afraid”. Lord, calm (name)’s heart today and give them courage to trust You. Lord, if they are drowning in the storm, reach out and save them immediately. Draw (name)’s gaze to You. Encourage them with Your comfort, your Presence and Your reassurance. Jesus, they need You. I pray that they would see their need and, instead of trying to fix it themselves, they would cry out to You. I pray that You would stand in the midst of the storm with them and hold them close. Lord, hear their cry and answer immediately. I trust You and I know You can do more than I could ever ask or imagine. I pray that You would be Lord of the storm today and bring peace, calm and rescue. Bring (name) into safe fellowship with You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Do you know someone who is struggling today? Why not share this post with them and encourage them to cry out to Jesus.
Pray without ceasing.
Fear Nurtures a Traitorous Heart
Matthew 14:22-33 “Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowd. After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone, and the boat was already a considerable distance from land, buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it. Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear. But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” “Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.” “Come,” he said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!” Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?” And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.””
We’ve all likely felt the emotion- that ‘hair-standing-up-sending-tingles-through-your-body’ imminent danger of fear.
But what causes fear? According to dictionary.com fear is “a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid” 1
We fear when we encounter something greater than we are that has the power to cause pain, shatter our peace or destroy us. We fear when something is out of our control. Fear sets in when others in the situation or the elements surrounding us exceed our perceived ability to manage and maintain our preferences and comfort. It’s a response to lack of control.
Fear seems to be an ever-present part of parenthood. When they’re little we fear that they’ll stop breathing, or choke on food, or run into the street or get sick or… the list goes on. As they grow, we fear them driving cars, the other drivers, the ‘creepers’ who are out there, the temptations…that list goes on, too. Now that they’re adults, the fears remain, they just change location and direction and intensity.
As parents, we can quickly descend into fear. And when we do, we become like Peter in Matthew 14:22-33 when Jesus invited him to step out and walk on the water. At first, Peter eagerly obeyed and began walking toward Jesus. But then the reality of his surroundings, the deep water, the distance from the boat, the gravity-both figurative and literal- grabbed his attention. He took his eyes off of Jesus and focused on everything around him that could threaten and harm him. Fear stepped between Peter and Jesus…and he began to sink. He permitted fear to gain power over him. He allowed the situation to dictate his response rather than the Savior who controlled the situation.
When we look around at this world, it’s not hard to feel that fear welling up inside of us. We want to protect our kids, and that’s understandable. But we can easily cripple our heart and mind with fear if we dwell on all the ‘what ifs’. But, friends, living in the ‘what ifs’ is a form of fortune-telling, isn’t it? It’s imagining and expecting outcomes over which we have no control and allowing those expectations or fears to consume and control us. We believe in the ‘what-if’s more than we believe in our Savior. We stop trusting in the sovereignty of God and His mighty power.
If we live in fear, that’s an indication that a portion of our heart and mind are not surrendered to Christ. It tells us that we don’t fully trust the Lord. An anxious heart weighs a man down (Prov. 12:25). That word ‘anxious’ means fear, being afraid. When we’re afraid, our thoughts are not consumed with God, but with whatever is threatening. When we fear, we’re effectively saying “God, I don’t trust that You can defeat this”. An anxious heart is a traitorous heart.
Here’s the incredible truth, if we are in Christ, the very power that worked in Him to raise Him from the dead is the same power that works in us.
Ephesians 1:18-20 “I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is the same as the mighty strength he exerted when he raised Christ from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms,”
God has no equal. There is nothing that can put Him in danger, threaten His power or position, or overcome Him with evil. He overcame evil when Jesus died on the cross for sin, descended into the depths to take the keys of death and Hades and ascended to heaven to sit at the right hand of the Father. No other has that resume. No other has the power to do that.
Friends…we have nothing to fear! 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (KJV) If we are found in Christ, we are held safe in the shadow of His wing. We are held secure in the refuge of His presence. We are surrounded by the strength of His power and might. We are victorious in His record of victory!
Our fear is a tool of the enemy to get our eyes off of Jesus and onto our troubles. Fear is a poison that infects us quickly and renders us ineffective. Let’s purpose to not give in to fear but to stand firm in our trust of our Savior.
Let’s pray today that fear ceases to be a part of our parenting and that, instead, we live with confidence and joy and we exhibit an example that our sons and daughters should follow.
“Father, I pray that today You will eclipse any fear that wants to settle in my heart and mind. Help me to focus on what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable (Phil. 4:8). Lord, You are Sovereign. You are Almighty. You have no equal and there is nothing and no one who can challenge or overthrow You. Lord, help me to remember that. When fear threatens to creep in and steal my peace and joy, I pray that You would take my face and direct my eyes to You. Lord, I pray that I would not live in fear and that I would not allow it to take root in my heart and mind. It’s a poor example for my sons and daughters. If I live in fear, I essentially demonstrate that I don’t trust You to do what You promise. Forgive me for my fear, for my mistrust, for my wavering faith.”
“I pray that You would help (name) to trust You fully and rest in Your safe-keeping. Don’t allow fear to distract (name) from following You with their whole heart and mind and strength. Don’t let them cave to the taunts of the enemy who tries to get their attention and steal their peace. I know fear is a tool of the enemy, so I pray that you would empty his toolbox and render him powerless. I pray that (name) would look to You for strength and that You would fill (name) with confidence in Your Sovereignty and Power. That same power that worked in Jesus to raise Him from the dead is the power that works in us. Lord, help us to live in that power today. Give us victory over fear. We are Your children and we know You are our Perfect Father who will always protect and watch over us. Help us to rest in that today. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Why not share this today with someone who struggles with anxiety and fear? Let’s encourage one another in our walk with Jesus.
Pray without ceasing.
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The Power of “Nothing”
Philippians 4:6 “Be anxious for nothing, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
God tells us to be anxious for nothing. So, here’s the question, how can “nothing” hold so much power over us? Because sometimes the ‘nothing’ is all-consuming and it’s everything we think about, run from, struggle to carry and try, helplessly, to ignore.
Believers are not immune to anxiety. Let’s admit it. Years ago people would rarely acknowledge they might struggle with anxious thoughts because there was a stigma to it. We are not supposed to fall victim to anxiety or depression, right? We’re supposed to be ‘stronger’ than our anxious thoughts and victorious over the darkness. Yet, here we are. And we struggle. It’s okay to admit it. That “nothing” can actually render us weak and powerless.
One important thing to remember is that we don’t battle against flesh and blood, we battle against principalities and powers- those unseen but strong enemies that attack our thoughts and try to incapacitate our spiritual life (Eph. 6:12). How can the enemy make us ineffective? By consuming our thoughts with things that distract us from the Lord. That’s why scripture tells us to “demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (1 Cor 10:5)
Even King David, a man after God’s own heart, had his own struggles with depression and anxiety. Just take time to read through the Psalms and you’ll see time and again where David cries out to God, pleads for rescue from the mire and the waters that overwhelm him (Ps. 69 is a great example) Yet David always refocused his thoughts back on God and made it a point to praise God, even in the midst of his battles. He was honest about his struggle, but intentional about his choices.
Anxiety takes our thoughts off of Christ and onto those things that weigh us down. It consumes our thinking and paralyzes our mind. It is an attack that cripples our ability to be effective in living victoriously for Christ. For all those reasons, and more, we need to fight it by taking every thought captive and we need to pray for spiritual protection over ourselves, over our sons and daughters, and over the Church as a whole.
This is not to say that medical help isn’t necessary, because sometimes it is. And God has given doctors and professionals the wisdom and insight to see and understand how our minds, emotions and physical bodies work together (or sometimes against each other) and can provide help and support to aid in the battle.
But what else can we do? Philippians 4:8 says “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” That’s right, think on those things are are:
True (God’s word is truth, John 17:17)
Noble/honorable (of good character, Romans 5:3-4)
Right (righteousness revealed in the gospel, Romans 1:17)
Pure (wisdom from above is pure, James 3:17)
Lovely (the love of God, John 16:27)
Admirable (of good report- like Jesus’ ministry, Luke 4:14)
So what happens when we begin to take every thought captive and think on those things that God tells us are powerful, excellent and praiseworthy? The power of ‘nothing’ begins to lose its power over us. Remember, as believers, we have the same power working in us that God used when He raised Christ from the dead!! The power that broke the chains of sin and death lives in us! (Eph 1:18-21)
Don’t miss the powerful promise in Philippians 4:7! When, instead of being anxious, we make our requests to the Lord, “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” When we stop focusing on the things that make us anxious and instead pray, God promises His peace will guard our hearts and minds through Jesus!
Today, let’s pray in power of the Holy Spirit for a hedge of protection around our sons and daughters. Let’s pray that the enemy would not be able to stir up thoughts and weigh down hearts with things that Christ has already conquered. Let’s pray that the helmet of salvation would protect their minds and the breastplate of righteousness would guard and protect their hearts so they would be anxious for nothing. Let’s pray that ‘nothing’ has any power to render us helpless or hopeless. We are more than conquerors in Christ!
“Father, You are the Almighty Sovereign God. I trust You and I know my soul can and does find rest in the shadow of Your wing. My soul clings to You and Your right hand upholds me (Ps 63:8) I pray this would be the prayer of (name) as well, today. Lord, sometimes anxiety wells up in us. But I pray that ‘nothing’ would hold no power over (name). Lord, be mightier than the thoughts that stack up in (name)’s head. Be stronger than the cares that would weigh (name) down. Each time they begin to feel overwhelmed, I pray that You would pour scripture and thoughts of truth, righteousness, honor, and those thing that are pure and lovely so their thoughts would be consumed by You rather than by what would distract them from You. Lord, in Ps 94:19 David prayed, “When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.” I pray that for (name) today. When anxiety is great within (name), please bring them consolation and comfort that leads to pure joy in You. Help (name) to be anxious for nothing. In Jesus’ name, amen.”
Pray without ceasing.